what does it mean to relax?despite hearing this term thousands of times during the course of our
lives, very few people have deeply considered what it's really about.
when you ask people (which i have done many times) what it means to relax, most will answer in
a way that suggests that relaxing is something you plan to do later you do it on vacation, in a hammock, when you retire, or when you get everything else done. this implies, of course, that most other times should be spent nervous, agitated, rushed, and frenzied. very few actually come out and say so, but this is the obvious implication.could this explain why so many of us operate as if life were
one great big emergency?
it is useful to think of relaxation as a quality of heart that you can access on a regular basis rather than something reserved for some later time. you can relax now. it's helpful to remember that relaxed people can still be superachievers and, in fact, that relaxation and creativity go hand in hand.when i'm feeling uptight, for example, i don't even try to write. but when i feel relaxed, my writing flows quickly and easily.
放松自我
放松意味着什么?尽管一生中我们会成千上万次地听到这个词，但是几乎没有谁好好琢磨过它到底指的是什么。
当你问别人(我曾问过许多次)放松意味着什么，大多数人的答案不外乎是，放松就是某些有朝一日你会做的事—那些你计划在假期里，躺在吊床上，退休以后，或把该干的事都做完之后才有时间做的事。 当然这自然暗示着大部分其他时间应该是在紧张、焦虑、匆忙、疯狂中度过。事实上没有什么人会站出来这样说，但这就是明显的含意。
这是否能解释为什么我们那么多的人把人生看作是一件紧急的大事件而奔忙?
不妨把放松理解成一种心态，是你可以时常受用、而不是什么非要留到以后才能享受的东西。你现在就可以放松。记住，会放松的人依然可以取得辉煌的成就。事实上，
放松和创造力往往如影随形。比如说，当我感到绷得紧紧的时候，我甚至不会试着去写点什么。但是我放松时，会感到下笔流畅自如。